Stop bugging me

Written by Malou van Kouwenhove, Illustration by Maxim Etty

Oversharing is common in our generation, but beware: it might bug your friends.

Oversharing is common in our generation. Many young adults post pictures on Instagram daily and tell their stories on Facebook. Even though I barely post anything on social media, many of my friends do.

I hate people knowing what I do every single day. I only use Facebook to pass the time, Instagram gets a new picture every now and then. I don’t post a lot, because I don’t feel like I know my online friends well enough. However, when I look through my timeline many of my friends don’t feel the same way. They post pictures every day and what they are up to in their stories. I find food pictures the most annoying, I don’t care that you ate those nachos somewhere in Amsterdam. 

Where is the line in oversharing? For many people, it’s pictures or posts about details of their personal life. For example problems in marriage or problems at work. When I see those posts I seriously wish I hadn’t spent my time reading about it and will consider unfollowing them. I also think if you’re in the hospital and post about it, you overshare. I will get curious about why you’re in the hospital and when you only say “in the hospital” with some smiley I will get annoyed. I want to know if you’re okay because if you post that online I feel like I have the right to know.

The Huffington Post has written an article with three reasons why people overshare: boredom, egocentricity, and low self-esteem. Don’t even get me started on that second one. People think the whole world revolves around them and they keep posting because they believe people care, right? Absolutely not. And then you have the complete opposite for people with low self-esteem: it’s sad they overshare to find validation from other people online. They won’t get it and to be honest, in the end, it will probably tear them up as well.